Stop Taking Sh*t Personally

Stop taking shit so personally.  There, I said it.  At the end of the day, it comes down to this: We can’t control how other people are going to behave and the choices they are going to make.  The more energy and time you invest in that, the more you lose, and the more they win.  And what’s worse is they aren’t thinking twice about it, so why should you?

Recruiters, has this ever happened to you?:  

You worked really hard to get a placement.  You did all the right things, did all the appropriate following up, bent over backwards job searching, negotiated (or didn’t, and paid your candidate exactly what they wanted), found the perfect assignment, got the contract out….and then nothing.  Silence.  Rogue.  Literally fallen off of the face of the earth.  

You’ve tried everything: calling, texting, emailing, Facebook stalking.  Maybe even some other, less-than-desirable tactics….nothing. You’re fuming….you’re fuming to your partner sitting next to you….you’re fuming to your work bestie….you’re fuming to your account manager trying to explain things to them….you’re fuming to your manager or team lead.  Then maybe you calm down until someone asks you about the candidate and then you’re fuming all over again.  And likely you take it home with you that evening and fume to whoever is at home to listen.

Or, maybe the opposite - maybe you’re worried.  Maybe this candidate was the sweetest thing since grandma’s iced tea and they’d never do such a thing!  So you start calling and texting and Facebook stalking.  And instead of fuming, you’re anxious and worried, and talking with your partner, and work bestie, and account manager and team lead...and whoever is at home that evening.  And then maybe that anxiety does start to turn to anger a little bit.

Oh, you know it’s happened to you!   

Listen, the truth of the matter is, we can’t help but take things personally because we work really hard at this job.  And most of us go to great lengths to please our candidates and to make it work for them - some of us want to, because it’s in our nature, and some of us have to, because we’ve got goals to meet monthly.  But regardless of why we do it, it doesn’t pain us any less when it doesn’t work out, right?  

But at the end of the day, it doesn’t keep us from getting out of bed and doing it all over again the next day.  Because there is always another candidate who you will work really hard for and who will sign the contract and all the hard work will be worth it for that person.  So stop taking the other shit so personally.  Those ones who go rogue on you, screw ‘em!  Stop letting them control your day!  Don’t let them mess with your momentum!  I’m telling you right now, they aren’t spending a single ounce of time and energy worried about you while they are fading your calls and text messages.  Stop taking that shit personally and keep doing your thing!  

NOTE: Do take a minute to think about where you may have gone wrong and potentially glossed over some red flags and don’t make the same mistake recruiting someone like that again.  


Other Moxie Musings

Stop Taking Sh*t Personally

Did someone get the best of you? Don't get mad, or sad - get better. And get on with it.

Read More

Self Awareness Is One of the Greatest Traits a Person Can Have-Who Are You?

Why self-awareness is a great trait and how to become more self-aware.

Read More

Remove Cancer Before It Spreads Throughout Your Team

You have a so-called top performer on your team with a terrible attitude. What's a good manager to do?

Read More
View Moxie Musing Archives

Sign up for our email and get these Moxie Musings sent right to you when they are released!

Thank you! Your submission has been received!
Oops! Something went wrong while submitting the form.